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Don’t try so hard to hold on


I’m currently finishing a fantastic book called The Untethered Heart. Finishing a book is so bittersweet for me. I feel excited to have accomplished a book from cover to cover and yet I am either feeling the need to continue to read or not quite ready to let go of the story, whatever it may be.

The book showed me a lot regarding happiness.

Happiness:the word rolls off our tongue but if we really think about happiness we will realize it is a choice. During the “easy” days of endless joy, happiness is our friend. We laugh light, walk with a skip in our step, and make the right choices; those days happiness is an easy choice.

But we must give attention to the gloomy days which are also there. A traffic jam, a divorce, a death, and those moments they seem the farthest thing from what we call happy. But if instead of holding on tightly to what we think makes us happy and aligning ourselves for disappointment, we decided to drop all expectations… It could all glimmer; it could all be the happiness moment we wanted all the time.

See, as humans we design our life to hang on to what is “good.” But that goodness, that attachment to the comfortable, that fear of losing… That my friend is what brings you so much pain.

See, happiness is a choice. A choice to see all of it as good. To see all of it as just right. We must let go of pretenses, expectations, and the conceived notion of “good.” If your whole life you expect a partner to fulfill your desires and needs, you are setting your relationship up for pain. Death hurts when you expect all to live forever. Traffic jams are more awful when you fear getting home late… Do you catch my drift? Drop the expectation.

Live in the moment without precursors of what life and those in it should be. Take time to breathe and enjoy the subtle and remarkable parts of life when you let go of trying so hard to hold on.


Don’t let the mind fool you, darling


I am ready to move forward in my life but I understand the importance of patience. Understanding and accepting may be different at times but I know I’m here. I am in my next place. Part of being in that new place is letting go of my old. Being aware of past but allowing it to slip through my fingers instead of gripping tightly for old things, old ways.. A friend recently told me, ” A part of us dies each day, and we find ourselves mourning.. But the beauty is we allow a newness to come in.”

Life is a lesson in shifting.

As I move forward I sometimes look back and wonder the what ifs. These show up in my dreams at night and the door asks to be reopened. But I must remind my mind that my heart has different feelings.

And our structure of life always changes, like the wind. We try to keep our lives in a cookie cutter shape. We “know” the shape we want but this also changes. Our values re-prioritize. Our hearts fall in love somewhere else. But in our mind, we have already chosen-in our mind. We must realign our hearts and heads. Don’t let the mind fool you, darling.

Be willing to progress. Be willing to leave the past behind. Be optimistically hopeful and patient that even in these small moments you are practicing to be a better self in the moments to come.

And all will reveal itself in time and rhythm.

Just remember today, your heart has the truth,And if you listen closely.. You will find it is asking to grow. Don’t be afraid to let go of the usual, the common in order to find a brighter place, full of excitement, a place that your heart is asking for.