An excerpt from a fantastic book: The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer
There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind- you are the one who hears it. If you dont understand this, you will try to figure which of the many things the voice says is really you. People go through so many changes in the name of “trying to find myself.” They want to discover which of these voices, which is these aspects of personality, is who they really are. The answer is simple: none of them.
Take a moment to examine the difference between your experience of the outside world and your interactions with the mental world.
You will come to see that the mind talks all the time because you gave it a job to do. You use it as protection, a form of defense. Ultimately it makes you feel more secure.
True personal growth is about transcending the part of you that is not okay and needs protections. This is done by continually remembering that you are the one inside that notices the voice talking. That is the way out. It is a doorway to the depths of your being. To be aware that you are watching the voice talk is to stand on the threshold of a fantatsic inner journey.