I’m currently finishing a fantastic book called The Untethered Heart. Finishing a book is so bittersweet for me. I feel excited to have accomplished a book from cover to cover and yet I am either feeling the need to continue to read or not quite ready to let go of the story, whatever it may be.
The book showed me a lot regarding happiness.
Happiness:the word rolls off our tongue but if we really think about happiness we will realize it is a choice. During the “easy” days of endless joy, happiness is our friend. We laugh light, walk with a skip in our step, and make the right choices; those days happiness is an easy choice.
But we must give attention to the gloomy days which are also there. A traffic jam, a divorce, a death, and those moments they seem the farthest thing from what we call happy. But if instead of holding on tightly to what we think makes us happy and aligning ourselves for disappointment, we decided to drop all expectations… It could all glimmer; it could all be the happiness moment we wanted all the time.
See, as humans we design our life to hang on to what is “good.” But that goodness, that attachment to the comfortable, that fear of losing… That my friend is what brings you so much pain.
See, happiness is a choice. A choice to see all of it as good. To see all of it as just right. We must let go of pretenses, expectations, and the conceived notion of “good.” If your whole life you expect a partner to fulfill your desires and needs, you are setting your relationship up for pain. Death hurts when you expect all to live forever. Traffic jams are more awful when you fear getting home late… Do you catch my drift? Drop the expectation.
Live in the moment without precursors of what life and those in it should be. Take time to breathe and enjoy the subtle and remarkable parts of life when you let go of trying so hard to hold on.
An excerpt from a fantastic book: The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer
There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing that you are not the voice of the mind- you are the one who hears it. If you dont understand this, you will try to figure which of the many things the voice says is really you. People go through so many changes in the name of “trying to find myself.” They want to discover which of these voices, which is these aspects of personality, is who they really are. The answer is simple: none of them.
Take a moment to examine the difference between your experience of the outside world and your interactions with the mental world.
You will come to see that the mind talks all the time because you gave it a job to do. You use it as protection, a form of defense. Ultimately it makes you feel more secure.
True personal growth is about transcending the part of you that is not okay and needs protections. This is done by continually remembering that you are the one inside that notices the voice talking. That is the way out. It is a doorway to the depths of your being. To be aware that you are watching the voice talk is to stand on the threshold of a fantatsic inner journey.
A new year. A fresh start. We write down our resolutions and promise ourselves that this year is the year. Statistically, many will lose sight of their goal(s) within the first two months of the year. I am not wishing this nor am I really offering it as a bad or good thing… it is simply a number that has been calculated.
Could we though, see it differently? What if we considered every day to be a “new year,” another time to try maintain a resolution? What if every moment ,every breath was an opportunity to be better?
I have been hard on myself for past indulgences… an indulgence on relaxation time instead of workout time… having too much fun on a night out and serving the consequences for it.. and some of my resolutions are in regards to these indulgences. But the change in my goals will reside in my ability to try again when I fail. We all will fail in our lives. We may fail in small ways, or big ways. We may fail people we love or we may fail our driving exam. The success lies in our ability to try, try again.
We are humans. We make mistakes. We screw up and sometimes we screw up more than once. The beauty of life is that the opportunity is available for you to try it differently.
And the really exciting thing is you can go in a new direction every breath! Need not wait until the new year. Don’t work so hard for two months and then call it quits. Try, try again. The opportunity is waiting for you to be better and do better. And each moment is a moment to practice in being better.
The Happiest of Happy New Year to you and your loved ones.