Grasping on to aspects of my life… knowing that they are inevitably changing.
We like the comfort of knowing and the security of it being there. Our whole lives we create a world that feels permanent. We go through moments feeling like those moments will always be around. Whether it’s a relationship with a friend, or a job, maybe it’s a roof over your head or hot water. We tend to believe it to be everlasting.
Here is where we are off track. Life is not that way. It can’t be definite. Someone you love gets sick. Your husband loses his job. There is a detour on your way to work and you didn’t plan for it. The Pop Machine is Sold Out of Coke Zero. These changes in our life throw us off of our “expected”route and so our mood changes, and our day turns from good to not-so-good.
But if we choose to open our eyes to reality.. we will discover that nothing is permanent and nowhere in your life did your contract say.. never-ending. The energy of life is always changing. And it should.
“When you look at the nature of things with concentration, you discover that they are all impermanent. Everything is constantly changing. Nothing has a permanent identity. The impermanence is not a negative thing. If things were not impermanent, growth would not be possible. If things were not impermanent, you could not have children, and your children would never grow up.
We are made of elements called form, feelings, perceptions, mental formations, and consciousness. A feeling or perception is very real, but you cannot find anything permanent in it.”
And so we as humans want this sense of something being permanent. We are so goal oriented to create and keep parts of our lives that can’t be. If you lived knowing that things were impermanent.. wouldn’t it have more flavor? more zest?
We are all impermanent beings. And see life this way. Each moment will never be quite like the last. No matter how you map out your day.. something is bound to change.. be okay with that. Embrace the visit of control but be aware that it has a short stay… Life will shift .
Remember without impermanence one does not grow. And isn’t this what we come to do? Let go of your grip on things that can’t be held.. you are suffocating their growth and yours.
Let it go.. not as wrecklessness or abandonment but out of reality. What is today will change tomorrow and we will continue to grow.